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When was the last time you shed a tear either in public or more likely, due to the pressure of society against men being seen to show any forms of emotion, in private?

Whether it was at a happy event like a wedding or a birth, the death of a friend or a member of your family or one of those strange events that catches you unaware such as having your emotions played with by the very skilled and manipulative script writers and film makers of Hollywood, it is highly likely that you felt the very strong urge to suppress your natural emotions.

A recent figure dropped into a Sunday Colour supplement without any explanation or comment stated that 25% of men had cried in the workplace.

Anyone seeing the interview with Masters winner Adam Scott this past weekend and watching him manfully holding a quivering upper lip in place could be forgiven for thinking that after seventy nine years of the tournament, and being the first golfer from a proud sporting nation to win the coveted green jacket, he probably had a good excuse to let the waterworks flow.

It is not unnatural for a sportsman to hold back the tears as they are held up as the tough manly example of our sex for whom weakness of this kind is seen as a a character flaw.  Who could forget the often repeated images of Paul Gasgoine in tears 1990 world cup semi final when he was booked and realised he would miss the chance to play in a World Cup Final.

So why is it that so many men insist of a tough and rugged exterior even at the most extreme of occasions?  It is understandable that due to pressure from society and our upbringing; that men should seek to minimise crying in public. But many societies understand that letting your emotions surface is actually a sign of honesty and release in a highly charged situation rather than a character defect in a man.

If suppressed; the emotions that make a man want to cry are held back or internalised and can lead to other issues. Crying is a common, understandable and natural release of pressure at a time of grief, disappointment or elation.  Crying also demonstrates a level of self-confidence and esteem, a feeling that it is not wrong to show your emotions and to allow this to be seen by other people.

So the next time you feel that urge welling up inside you, try to have the confidence in yourself to be natural, to be confident enough to show a very normal emotion and just have a cry, it will do you a power of good.

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